Recently a former friend of mine got divorced. To maintain his privacy I’ll call him John Doe. I say former because the last time I saw him was about two to three years ago. Our Moms were and still are really good friends so when I was younger, John and I would hang out whenever our Moms got together. Now at this point you are probably wondering why I am bringing the fact that a former friend of mine got divorced? First let me give you some background. Both John and his ex wife were home schooled, they married about two years ago, and John was about nineteen and his ex wife is about two years older than John when they married.
So, to cut a long story short John and his ex wife got married young and without the necessary maturity level for a lasting relationship. I am not saying that their problem is because they married young, in fact my parents got married young and I think they turned out okay. Both John and his ex-wife made their mistakes in the marriage and maybe the right thing to do was to divorce, but one of the causes of the divorce I think was a lack of hope on both of their parts. They basically gave up without even trying to fix what was broken. Neither of them fought in the divorce, they just went in, signed the papers and left. Divorce is nasty and it tears apart families, and thankfully they don’t have any kids who had to go through the ordeal.
The point I am trying to make is that when you give up and lose hope you are selling yourself short and potentially missing out on something great. The Oxford dictionary defines Hope as “A feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen.” Or in other words, hope means looking forward. So when all we do is look backwards at our past mistakes and failures, we are are more likely to give up and lose hope because that’s where our focus is. If on the other hand we are looking forward we will be less likely to give up! John’s story is a sad story not only for the divorce, but also because both John and his ex wife gave up hope. Both of them were looking at past hurts instead of forgiving each other and moving forward. When you find yourself in a hard situation, whether it’s a lack of work or you’re going through a rocky patch in a relationship, don’t throw in the towel stick with it and keep looking forward!
“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” -Proverbs 13:12