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Gone, Gone, Gone

Life has been crazy for the past couple of weeks. I have been working crazy long hours at the ranch. My work hours are going to continue to be crazy for the about the next three weeks or so. When I have been home I’ve been busy with personal stuff. Hence why I haven’t posted anything for the past couple of weeks.
Also I’ve been working with a friend of mine on a project. I’ll be sharing more details about it in the coming weeks. Along with a formal announcement when the project is ready to be shared with the world.

Any way here’s a music video for your viewing pleasure.

-Roland K



The Paper Bag Theory

A couple of weeks ago I was having a conversation with a friend of mine about meeting/finding/attracting the “right” guy. During the course of the conversation she said that she was going to go stick her head in a paper bag and see what would happen. Now my friend did not literally stick her head in a paper bag. What she meant by her statement is that she wasn’t going to worry about trying to find the “right” guy.
Instead she was just going to be herself and not try to be someone, that she is not just to attract a guy. My friend ended up calling her idea “The paper bag theory.” In short the paper bag theory is this. You will be yourself and not worry about attracting a member of the opposite sex.

Two types of small paper bags

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Now, you might be thinking to yourself that would never work. Well here’s some food for thought. Do you want someone to be attracted to the front that you put up to try to attract someone? Or do you want them to be attracted to the really you? Any kind of relationship won’t last if it’s built on false hood. It will eventually wither and die.

In a previous post I wrote about the masks we wear. In it I talked about reasons for why we wear masks and I posed the question “what would happen if we stopped wearing masks and showed each other our true self’s?” Since I wrote that post I have been trying to live without any masks. Some times I succeed and other times I fail miserably. In doing so I have found a sense of freedom and liberty that I never had before. I am not trying to please any one and I don’t have to hide behind masks and false fronts. Because I’m being myself and not who other people think I am. I’m more confidant in myself and my abilities both as a person and as a leader in my church young adult group.

If you’re stressing out and worrying about finding that “right” guy or girl. Why don’t you give the paper bag theory a shot. Who knows you might be surprised by the results. So, what happened with my friend, and did her paper bag theory work? Well, I think I’ll save the answer to that question for a future date.

-Roland K

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A Strange Week

This week has been a strange week. There are moments in our lives when we experience a turning point. It’s when something happens that we didn’t expect, and for good or for ill we cannot go back to way it was before, no matter how much we want to go back. I experienced such a turning point this week. It was rather unexpected, and has left me questioning what I want from life. Not in a bad way, but it has made me think about what is important in life.

the turning point

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Something that I have come to realize this past week is that when opportunity knocks I tend to talk myself out of it. I look for reasons why I shouldn’t follow through with the opportunity. While there’s nothing wrong with coming up with a list of reasons against something. It becomes problematic when the only arguments being used are straw men. The main reason I try to talk myself down even when my arguments can’t hold water is because I want control. I want to know where all of the variables are before I make a move.

Going back to the turning point I mentioned at the beginning. There’s been a lot of back and forth going on in my head as I try to wrap my mind around what has happened this last week. While there are still some reservations on my part I am excited to see where I am going to end up.

So if you’re wondering what this turning point is, you’re going to have to wait patiently. Over the coming weeks I will be posting hints. Sometimes they will be obvious and other times not so much. I’ll start things off with an obvious hint. It’s not my trip to North Carolina. Don’t worry I will be posting more details on my trip in the coming weeks. I am really excited to travel to NC and its going to be an adventure.

-Roland K

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Alive and Well

As so very often happens in life, things come that are sometimes expected and other times not so much. For those of you wondering I am still alive and well. I’ve been busy working at my family’s ranch, so I haven’t had time to write or post anything. It’s been a crazy week and a half. I’ll be sharing the details with you over the next couple of weeks. But until then keep on living life to fullest.
-Roland K


The Joys of… Peanut Butter?

Yes, you did read the title right. As I started writing this post I had just finished eating a spoonful of peanut butter. Skippy creamy peanut butter to be exact. Anyway as I was eating it, I was struck with the thought “Why don’t I stop enjoy the simple things in life more?” At this point you might be thinking to yourself “Peanut butter!? What does peanut butter have to do with stopping and enjoying the simple things in life?” To answer your question, it doesn’t get much simpler than peanut butter.

Peanut butter is a semi-solid and can therefor...

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Still confused? Let me try and explain. I am a pretty busy guy. Between school, work, and friends I very rarely slow down and enjoy myself. I am always looking forward at the next event coming up in my life. Now there’s nothing wrong with looking forward. In fact I am of the opinion that if you don’t look forward and make a plan you won’t get to where you want to be. But as I was eating my spoonful of peanut butter I realized that I rarely stop and enjoy the simply things in life. I am always planning for the next thing or stage in my life. When I should be enjoying the present with all of the simple things that are around me.

All of us get caught up with things in our lives. Sometimes they are good things, and other times not so much. We’ve got things to do, people and places to see. However, with our busy lives it’s important to remember to stop and enjoy the simple things, like peanut butter!

-Roland K

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Make It Count

It’s a fact, you and I are going to die. We may not like thinking about it but it’s the truth. While we know that some day we are going to die. We don’t know when, where, or how we are going to die. You and I could die today, tomorrow, or seventy years from now.

Every once in a while it’s a good idea to ask ourselves questions like “If I died tomorrow, would I have any regrets?” or “If I only had twenty four hours left live how would I spend them?” In reality how often do we actually ask ourselves those kind of questions and live like today could be our last day here on this little blue orb called earth? If all we have is today. Shouldn’t we make it count for something worthwhile?

-Roland K


Tired and Worn

Ever feel tried or worn? If so then this video is for you!!!

The above video is one of my personal favorite songs and music videos. Most of the songs that Tenth Avenue North writes are reminders of the God who loves us and of his unending grace and mercy and how we should respond to that grace and mercy.

-Roland K

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The Battle of The Heart

The heart is a mysterious thing. Figuring out the things we want in life can be hard. Whether it’s where we want to go to school, what kind of career we want to pursue, or what kind of person we want to marry. For some people these kind of questions are easy to answer. For most people however, answering the “BIG” life questions of school, career, and marriage isn’t as easy as one two three.
As I am finishing up my college degree and entering the next stage of my life. I am asking myself questions like “what kind of career do I want to pursue?” or “What am I looking for in a wife?” And to be honest I haven’t figured out the answers to those questions. However, two years ago I thought I had it all figured out.

It was my senior year of high school and I was at the top of my game, metaphorically speaking. I was extremely active in my churches youth group. I knew what I wanted to do after high school in terms of college. I was also planning on asking the girl of my dreams out at the end of the year. However, little did I know that I was in for a major crash and burn experience.

Broken heart symbol

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The first blow came when I asked the girl I liked out. Turned out that it was to little to late. She had meet a another guy and they had just started dating. The second blow came a couple of weeks later, when I found out that the cost of tuition at the media school I was planning on attending had basically doubled due to the school having built a brand new facility. The third and final blow came several months later when I had a major disagreement with my churches youth pastor. As each event happened I fell deeper and deeper into a depressed funk. I couldn’t figure out what happened! I had everything planned out and yet in a few short months everything I had planned fell apart. It wasn’t until last fall that the funk finally started to lift.

As I look back at the fourteen or so months after high school and the events that took place during that time. I have realized that each event taught me something different about myself and how I relate to others. Getting rejected by the girl of my “dreams” showed me that I wasn’t as ready for a committed long term relationship as I thought. The cost of tuition in the school I was planning on attending getting doubled showed me that I wasn’t as flexible with unexpected circumstances as I thought, and made me rethink my priorities on my education. The disagreement with my youth pastor showed me that I had a lot of unforgiveness and pride in my life.

During my Senior year of high school I knew what I wanted in life. However, hindsight being what it is I have come to realize that I really didn’t know what I wanted out of life back then, and the truth is I still don’t know entirely what I want out of life. Which is odd considering that I am writing a blog about living life to the fullest.

I bring up my sorry sob story to make a point. It’s a given that throughout life we are going to experience heartbreak, and we have no control over it. What we do have control over is how we respond to the heartbreak that we experience. I responded poorly to the heart break I experienced at the end of my senior year of high school. So I want to leave you with this question to ponder. How will you respond to heart break when it comes your way?

“The battle with the heart isn’t easily won. But it can be won.” -Ingrid Michaelson

-Roland K

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When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Waffles!

The above video is possibly one of the greatest rants ever! If you’re wondering, the rant is from the video game Portal 2. But I digress. The saying “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Has been around for awhile, and it seems to be ingrained into our culture. Most people have heard the saying or some variation of it.

English: Yellow lemons.

English: Yellow lemons. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Wikipedia says that the saying “‘When life gives you lemons, make lemonade‘ is a proverbial phrase used to encourage optimism and a can-do attitude in the face of adversity or misfortune. ‘Lemons’ In this expression is used in the informal sense of the word, to indicate an unfortunate or inadequate situation, a meaning which probably stems from the sour and acidic taste of unsweetened lemon. ‘Lemonade’ on the other hand, is a sweetened form of this same acerbic fruit, and so in the context of this expression, conveys the potential for pleasure and opportunity in seemingly bad situations.”
Now the saying “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Is a excellent saying and a good reminder that bad situations can be turned around into good situations. However it’s not perfect, there’s a danger of sticking with something well past when it should have been dropped. With that said I want to pose the idea that “when life gives you lemons, make waffles.” What do I mean by that statement? There are some “lemons” or negative/bad situations in life that no matter how hard we persevere and try to make “lemonade” we still won’t make lemonade. So my idea of making waffles basically means that you drop the lemon and you go and do something radically different.

English: Crispy Waffles.

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In other words, instead of trying to turn a bad situation into a good situation. You go and look for a different situation altogether. For example, say a girl is stuck in bad relationship with her boyfriend. If she followed the “make lemonade” idea and stuck with it, persevered, and tried to make the relationship work she would just be hurting herself in the long run. If on the other hand she realized that the relationship was bad and that there was nothing she could do to change it. She could leave the negative situation with her boyfriend and move on with her life and not get stuck trying to make “lemonade”.Now my idea “making waffles” doesn’t apply to all situations. It also doesn’t mean that you never go back to the lemon, but there will be times that you never go back. There also will be times when you will be able to turn a bad situation into good situation. Basically what I am trying to say is that when life gives you lemons take a step back go do something else and then later go back and see if you can make lemonade out of that lemon.
So the next time life gives you lemons. Be radical and go make waffles!!!

-Roland K

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Why Do We Fall?

Here’s a video that I found on YouTube a couple weeks ago. It’s a good reminder that when life knocks us down we to need to get back up and keep moving forward.

“You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!” -Rocky Balboa

-Roland K